Walking through surrender — emotionally, spiritually, relationally
There was a time in my life when I felt I had to have all the answers.
As a leader. As a parent. As a believer.
I thought people expected me to know — what to do, where to go, how to respond, what God was saying.
So I studied more, prayed harder, stayed up late rehearsing conversations, searching for answers to hold everything — and everyone — together.
But deep down, I was scared.
Scared that if I admitted uncertainty, I’d look weak.
Scared that if I said “I don’t know,” I’d disappoint God — or worse, lose credibility.
What I didn’t realize is that the need to always know was driving me away from the very peace I was craving.
😞 When Certainty Becomes a Burden
It’s a heavy thing, feeling like you always have to be the strong one.
The one with the vision.
The one with the wisdom.
The one who doesn’t flinch under pressure.
But there’s something no one tells you about pretending to have it all together:
It slowly breaks you.
It makes you cautious, closed off, afraid to be real.
It turns faith into performance.
It turns prayer into pressure.
And it leaves no room for honesty.
No room for the simple, sacred confession:
“I don’t know… but God does.”
🌬️ The Day I Let Go of Being the Expert
I remember the first time I said it publicly.
I was teaching, and someone asked a heartfelt question about pain and healing. I wanted to give a polished answer — a perfect theological response.
But all I could feel in that moment was God saying:
“Be honest. Be human. Be free.”
So I looked at the person and said, “I don’t know. I’m still learning that, too.”
And something surprising happened.
They smiled. They exhaled.
Because they weren’t looking for a genius — they were looking for truth.
That moment changed me.
It broke the performance trap.
It reminded me that humility isn’t weakness — it’s where healing begins.
🕊️ Surrendering the Idol of Certainty
We don’t often realize this, but sometimes our obsession with answers becomes an idol.
We say we trust God — but only as long as He explains everything.
We say we walk by faith — but still demand roadmaps.
We say we rest — but secretly Google our way through every spiritual decision.
Surrender means we stop worshipping answers and start walking in trust.
Because the truth is: God never asked us to know it all.
He asked us to follow Him, even in the fog.
💬 From White Flagging — A Line That Set Me Free:
“The most liberating moment in your faith journey might not come from what you discover — but from what you release.”
I released the pressure to perform.
I released the need to be the expert.
I released the idea that uncertainty means weakness.
And in that space… I found healing.
Clarity followed. But peace came first.
💡 The Beautiful Gift of Unknowing
When you finally admit, “I don’t know,” here’s what you gain:
- You make room for God to lead
- You create space for true connection with others
- You let your soul breathe again
- You break the cycle of spiritual burnout
It turns out that what I was afraid would make me look weak — actually made me more trustworthy.
People don’t need you to be perfect.
They need you to be present.
To be real.
To be surrendered.
If you’ve been carrying the burden of always having to “know”…
If you’ve been exhausted trying to be the answer for everyone…
I want to tell you — you can let that go now.
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✅ Forward this blog to someone carrying the pressure of certainty
✅ Remind them: Healing doesn’t always come from having the answer. It often begins with surrendering the need for one.
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Say the words: “I don’t know.”
And let God be the one who does.