Walking through surrender — emotionally, spiritually, relationally
Mike was a fixer.
Not just by personality — but by conviction.
He believed that if he could solve a problem, he should. And when it came to his closest relationships, that belief became a burden.
Mike loved deeply. But he also controlled quietly.
He wanted things to go well — for everyone. So he gave advice, offered plans, laid out options, corrected, steered, and… unknowingly started smothering the people he loved most.
Especially his wife.
💥 The Breaking Point
The tipping point came one evening during a quiet argument. His wife turned to him and said:
“You’re always trying to fix me. I feel like a project, not a partner.”
Those words hit Mike hard. Not because he was angry — but because he realized they were true.
He wasn’t trying to dominate. He was trying to help.
But help, without surrender, often turns into control.
And control — even when wrapped in good intentions — still stifles love.
Mike knew something had to change.
And that change started with surrender.
🕊️ The Shift That Saved Everything
Mike took a few days away in silence and prayer. He journaled. He read through his old prayer notes.
And then, one morning, in a simple and raw moment with God, he prayed:
“Lord, I release her. I surrender this marriage. I give You both of us. Not my way. Not my timing. Just… Yours.”
It wasn’t loud.
But it was the most honest prayer he had prayed in years.
That’s when things began to shift.
❤️ What Surrender Looked Like for Mike
He came home and told his wife something that surprised her:
“I’m done trying to be the Holy Spirit in your life. I love you, and I trust God with you.”
He stopped overexplaining.
He stopped trying to change her feelings.
He began listening — really listening.
He served without strings.
He let silence breathe.
He started showing up as a man who wasn’t trying to be right — but trying to be real.
And little by little, the wall between them began to crumble.
🌱 The Fruit of Relational Surrender
Mike’s marriage didn’t transform overnight. But it healed.
Not because of intense counseling.
Not because of grand romantic gestures.
But because one person decided to surrender instead of control.
His wife later said, “When you stopped trying to change me, I finally felt safe enough to change.”
That’s the power of surrendered love.
💬 From White Flagging — A Lesson That Reflects Mike’s Story:
“We don’t save relationships by doing more. We save them by surrendering more — control, expectations, ego. That’s when love can breathe again.”
Mike’s story is one of many.
You might have your own version of it.
Maybe it’s a child you’re trying to reach.
A spouse you’re trying to pull back in.
A friend who’s drifting.
A team member who won’t respond.
Let me gently remind you: Surrender isn’t giving up on them — it’s giving them back to God.
As we count down to the August 5 launch of White Flagging: The Surprising Power of Winning by Surrender, I believe stories like Mike’s will multiply.
Because when one person surrenders, the ripple of healing reaches far.
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✅ Forward this blog to someone who’s trying too hard to fix what only God can heal
✅ Remind them: Surrender doesn’t end connection — it restores it
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Wave the white flag.
Not to retreat — but to rescue what matters most.