Walking through surrender — emotionally, spiritually, relationally
There’s a moment in everyone’s spiritual life when you think you’ve surrendered—until life asks you to surrender again.
That was me. I used to believe surrender was a one-time thing. You hand it over to God, say a heartfelt prayer, and then go on with life—right? But what I’ve come to learn, through deep valleys and divine revelations, is this: surrender comes in layers.
Some layers are easy to peel. Others feel like spiritual surgery. But each one takes you closer to peace.
I want to walk you through three layers of surrender that transformed my life and shaped the very heart of my book, White Flagging: The Surprising Power of Winning by Surrender.
1. Emotional Surrender: When You Stop Pretending
This is where surrender first shows up — not in our circumstances, but in our emotions. It starts with honesty. With finally saying, “I’m not okay.” For years, I was excellent at smiling while bleeding. I functioned under pressure. I gave advice while secretly aching. But behind the strong exterior was a tired heart that desperately needed healing.
Emotional surrender was me in the car, tears falling as I whispered, “God, I’m scared. I don’t know what to do anymore.”
No masks. No bravado. Just truth.
This layer isn’t about weakness. It’s about vulnerability. And vulnerability is where healing begins.
2. Spiritual Surrender: When You Let God Lead
Once I could admit the emotional truth, the next invitation came: spiritual surrender.
This is deeper. It’s where you stop asking God to just fix your plan and start asking Him to reveal His. It’s easy to say, “God, have Your way,” but so much harder to actually mean it when His way interrupts your logic, timing, or comfort zone.
Spiritual surrender meant giving up my backup plans. It meant being okay with not knowing. It meant trusting even when I couldn’t trace His hand.
There were moments I prayed for doors that never opened. Now I thank God they didn’t. He wasn’t rejecting me—He was rerouting me. And every reroute led to something better, wiser, deeper.
Faith is not control disguised as prayer. Faith is letting go and saying, “Even if You take me where I didn’t expect, I will follow.”
3. Relational Surrender: When You Stop Trying to Fix People
This layer surprised me.
I thought surrender was just between me and God. But true surrender ripples out. It changes how we love, lead, and relate to others.
Relational surrender meant releasing people from expectations they never signed up for. It meant loving without controlling. Forgiving without condition. Allowing others to walk their own path—even if it hurt to watch. It meant setting boundaries not as a wall, but as wisdom.
One of the most healing prayers I ever prayed was: “God, I release them to You.” I stopped trying to be everyone’s savior. I learned that I’m not the Holy Spirit. And in letting go, I found a freedom I didn’t know I needed.
Layer by Layer, Healing Came
Each of these layers hurt. Each of them required humility. But with every grip I loosened, something sacred entered: peace.
White Flagging was born from these layers. Not a theory. A testimony. A blueprint for those who feel like surrender is losing—when in fact, it’s the only way to truly win.
🗓️ On August 5, this message will go live on Amazon for just $0.99. But it’s not just a book — it’s a breakthrough waiting to happen for someone who’s been fighting too long.
✅ Here’s how you can help today:
- Mark August 5 in your calendar
- Buy and review the book to help us climb the charts
- Forward this blog to someone who’s clinging when they should be letting go
Let’s release. Together.
Let’s make peace the new power.
Let’s wave the white flag — and find what surrender can really do.