Walking through surrender — emotionally, spiritually, relationally
Let’s not sugarcoat it:
Letting go hurts. Even when you know it’s the right thing.
Even when you trust God. Even when it’s necessary for your growth.
Because when you let go — really let go — you’re releasing something you once loved, believed in, or held close.
Sometimes, it’s a dream.
Sometimes, it’s a version of yourself.
Sometimes, it’s a relationship, a reputation, a role, or a deeply rooted expectation.
Letting go doesn’t just free your hands.
It breaks your heart first.
😞 Grief Often Comes Before Growth
No one told me that surrender would feel like grief.
I thought letting go would feel clean — like finishing a chapter and starting a new one.
But instead, it felt like a funeral.
I cried over dreams I thought I would live.
I mourned the time, energy, and heart I had poured into something that didn’t bear the fruit I imagined.
I sat in silence, asking God, “Why did You allow me to hope for it, only to take it away?”
What I learned is this:
Grief is not a sign you’re faithless. It’s a sign you were invested.
And God honors that investment — even when He calls you to walk away from it.
💔 The Honest Ache of Release
There is a sacred kind of pain that comes when you stop fighting for something you once thought you couldn’t live without.
I remember a moment — in a dark room, head bowed, heart heavy — whispering,
“God, I don’t know who I am without this… but if You’re asking me to let go, I will.”
I expected silence.
But instead, I sensed this deep, still response in my soul:
“Now I can show you who you really are.”
That was the beginning of my healing.
🕊️ Healing Begins Where Control Ends
Surrender doesn’t just release the situation — it makes room for God’s restoration.
And healing comes in layers, just like surrender does.
First came the peace — quiet, subtle, but steady.
Then came the clarity — new vision, unexpected doors.
Then came the strength — a rising from within that I hadn’t felt in years.
Letting go didn’t mean I was giving up.
It meant I was trusting God with the parts of my heart I had tried to protect on my own.
🔁 From Pain to Purpose
When I started writing White Flagging, I didn’t know that healing would be one of its central themes.
But that’s what surrender leads to — real, lasting, holy healing.
“The healing began not when I had all the answers, but when I stopped needing them and trusted the One who holds them.”
That line from the book came directly out of a season where God healed wounds I didn’t even know I was carrying.
He used surrender to pull out the thorns.
He used release to rebuild my strength.
He used letting go to lead me back to joy.
🌱 What Are You Holding Onto That’s Hurting You?
Sometimes, the very thing we refuse to release is the source of our pain.
And we keep praying for peace — not realizing peace is waiting on the other side of surrender.
So tonight, I ask you gently:
What do you need to let go of — so healing can begin?
It might hurt.
But it won’t destroy you.
It will save you.
As we prepare for the August 5 release of White Flagging: The Surprising Power of Winning by Surrender, I believe healing is going to come to many hearts.
Here’s how you can help make that happen:
✅ Mark August 5 on your calendar to grab the book for just $0.99
✅ Forward this blog to someone grieving a silent loss
✅ Remind them: Letting go isn’t the end — it’s where true healing begins
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The pain of surrender is real — but so is the healing that follows.
Wave your white flag tonight.
Let the healing begin.